Beware Living: A Life Lived by Expectations of Others
Majid Ali, M.D.
BeWare Living is a life of anger. Anger is a child of the thinking mind—the cortical monkey, in my language of self-healing (autoregulation). This monkey cannot be banished with mere words. Indeed, he thrives on clever schemes and convoluted theories. The mind forever recycles past misery and, when this is not enough, precycles feared future misery.
Healing is not an intellectual function. No clever mind can order healing in injured tissues. The cortical monkey decorates doubt and embellishes fear. Clever thinking is of little value in coaxing rebellious muscles to abstain from excessive contraction. Individuals with pain syndromes know that the pain of muscle spasm in the back or neck cannot be relieved by mere talking. Nor does the deep anguish of depression abate with so-called positive thinking. What is needed is true spiritual surrender.
Anger Cannot Be Resolved, It Can Only Be Dissolved
My patients have taught me two lessons about anger:
First, angry individuals do not heal well; and
Second, the answer to the problem of anger is spirituality, not psychology.
Neither the chemistry nor the energetics of anger have been delineated. Yet, based on my work with many chronically ill angry individuals — including those with cancer — I concluded thatanger is a powerful oxidizer. I am certain future research will clearly establish that. On a basic level, acute anger causes muscles to tighten up, producing excess acids and free radicals which, when present in excess, set the stage for oxygen dysfunction (dysox) and related severe adverse metabolic effects. Such acids include lactic acid, pyruvic acid, glyceric acid, 2-hydroxybutyric acid, and others. Cellular acidosis, oxidosis, and dysox are the three metabolic furies of cancer which actively cancerize non-cancerous cells. For persons with cancer who cannot dissolve anger through their Divinity work, chronic anger is worse than acute anger and causes chronically tightened muscles to produce chronic oxidosis, acidosis, and dysox.
Some writers recognize anger as the root of many disorders, which has also been my own observation. They think the solution to the problem of anger is in verbal unleashing of the hidden rage. They prescribe methods for positive thinking — for control and empowerment. Not withstanding the temporary benefits of these methods for resolving chronic anger, I have yet to see them yield enduring clinical results.
Life is an unending injury-healing-injury cycle. Hope is essential for healing in this cycle. Hope is easy to create. It is hard to sustain. This is true of all life situations, especially when facing serious problems, imagines or real. When under stress or sick, we are inclined to want most is to be told that the problems are curable—and will be cured. That, of course, is where the lies begin. False hopes are created by the family, friends, or professionals. This is usually the beginning of BeWare Living.
Hope With Hype Returns to Haunt
Hope is healing. Psedo-hope created by others but not rooted within often returns to haunt. Authentic hope arises only from the deep recesses of one’s inner core. The words of a Babylonian Princess come to the mind as I write this.
In one of my WBAI radio programs in New York entitled “Science, Health, and Healing,” my guest and I discussed the subject of the evolution of human awareness. I raised the issue of how one can become comfortable with one’s own death. How can one accept one’s death and be at peace with one’s self? To make a crucial point, I quoted the following inscription on the base of a statue of a Babylonian Princess, who was believed to have died young:
Please know as you pass me by,
As you’re now so once was I,
As I am now, so you will be,
Prepare yourself to follow me.
Two days later, I received a letter from a WBAI listener containing a news clipping showing a fresco called Trinity, painted by the Italian, Masaccio, in 1428. Recent investigation uncovered a painted skeleton below the alter slab, accompanied by an Italian inscription that reads in English:
I was once that which you are,
and that which I am you also will be.